Hey guys, I was minding my own today; eating away and then this topic about ‘faking it’ on media came to mind randomly so I rushed to create it because why not lol!! And I can see that a lot of you are liking my lengthy, interesting & debatable topics much more, so here’s another one!
I just wanted to start off by saying that I hope you know that there are differences between social media and reality. Sometimes we get so engrossed into social media, that we start thinking it is all we have and if our life isn’t that specific way, then we are living ‘wrong’.
I’m personally guilty of this, but we often use captions as an excuse to almost prove that we’re happy. Like yes I might be that day, but what about the times where I feel so ugly in my natural skin just because we’re taught so many makeup and hair tips from supposedly Instagram idols. There’s no doubt that whenever I open my instagram home page; I see makeup tutorials and hair tutorials and perfect lives from peoples stories. But it just makes you think deep down; it really is just for show.
Why are 12 year olds splodging makeup on themselves every day we may ask? Because they’ve grown up looking at these same idols where all their posts are of makeup only.
Why are the majority of us so insecure in our own skin when we should embrace our rough skin textures and harsh spots that never go away?! Well again, we were always believing in this little social media bubble rather than embracing our faults openly.
If you’re still in your early teens and you’re lucky enough to have found this article, please please please do not fall into this allegedly faultless bubble because I hate to break it to you but it’s all a lie.
Right so, what do I actually mean when I say ‘faking it’ ? Some people may prefer pretending to be happy for the sake of social media which is quite sad to see. In fact, I have done this multiple times but what can you do? We live in a society where looking like you’re having the best time of your life ALL THE DAMN TIME is normal – when it really isn’t. Like me even confirming it isn’t in front of a lot of people says a lot. Someone could post a picture of themselves at a party and we’d be quick to assume that they have a wonderful life; when that isn’t true. No one has a perfect life, we all have to go through obstacles to get stronger and wiser.
I mean, I’m not scared to show my down side anymore, because we really shouldn’t pretend to be a certain way just to please individuals? Like cmon, they aren’t superior from you lmao.
Edited Pics & Flawless Makeup
It makes me so happy seeing influencers finally exposing what really goes on behind the gorgeous, ‘perfect’ pictures!! Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with editing pictures to make your body look a certain way or make your skin look clearer – but that often leads to catfishing when you get to meet people. It isn’t fair to them because they’ve always had those same expectations for you; which you obviously will end up getting hurt from. Sure you can say that they should love you for you – but come on that shouldn’t be an answer for everything!!
Many makeup artists may use photoshop and other editing apps to intrigue their demographic which is just so deceiving guys. It needs to stop. Us as your audience don’t expect your makeup to look perfect; we want it to be realistic. So please don’t fall into this deep trap that you need to spend hours editing your pictures for it to look ‘good’.
Everything isn't what it may seem like...
There are loads of people that fake living perfect lives and perfect families. Little do we know is that these so called perfect families also go through the same problems as us. There is SOO much happening closed doors that we may not know because they choose NOT to show these tense parts of living. It may be to make themselves feel a little better because they don’t want people to think that they’re not a perfect family! Like seriously, what does a perfect family even mean? What categories are there? Let me know once you find them all LOOL.
But then again, all I’m trying to achieve from this is to never feel sorry for yourself. Because we’re all humans, we all go through pain & laughter, some people just don’t want to express the difficult parts because of their poor mental health that their audiences know nothing off.
Social Media & Our Health
Many of us may already know this, but social media has many disadvantages. There have been many psychologists and sociologists who have given explanations & statistics as to how the more time that we spend on social media leads to our mental health declining. I mean it’s pretty obvious because if we live in this bubble where we are forced to follow/ comment on friends pages even if you don’t necessarily like what they are posting; otherwise you are thought of badly. And you guys already know how this can affect your mental health.
Stress and anxiety also has been proven to be a part of social media. We constantly live in this bubble to impress people & to have lifestyles like certain individuals when that shouldn’t be the case. We should be grateful for what we have for it is more than what some others have!!!! You may have eyes, you may be able to walk, you may be able to get fresh food served to you every day – when there are starving people in the world. It’s just so interesting to think about. Anyways, good bye and thx for reading x