WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!
First of all, do not mind me releasing my inner high school musical vibes x
Happiness can mean anything that simply makes you smile, whether it’s your family or friends or food (which I can definitely relate to) and I am pretty sure we are content with our lives a thousand times more when we’re happy. Most importantly, we have all had breakdowns at some point in our lives, which by the way, I have like a hundred in the space of two days. And it may make you feel like not being productive at all, which is ok if you pick yourself back up the next day – because staying unproductive for too long will definitely have a huge impact on your day-to-day life, which will leave you feeling even more down. So I came up with my Top #5 Tips which obviously, I swear by, hope it helps you. Keep your chin up my lovelies x
Breathe in. Breathe out. And repeat.
When we are stressed, we often forget to just simply take a long breath in (through the nose), and a gentle breath out (of the mouth). It is very hard to maintain a happy lifestyle; however, research shows that deep, slow breathing helps by a huge amount for anxiety, fear and anger. And I definitely agree with this because when I do feel a bit overwhelmed with something, I tend to just take a long breath in and out a couple times, and it does help calm me down and evaluate the situation that I am in. Most of the time, we all are inclined to over think more than needed, which builds up further stress and anger.
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, that ‘if you stress too much about something before it happens, you basically put yourself through it twice’. This has resonated with me as I also lean towards stressing too much before a certain situation – whether that be an exam or trying to make everyone happy around me.
We are all humans, we will always have obstacles in life that prevent us from reaching the ultimate goal; happiness. In order to start this journey, we need to accept the fact that we do make mistakes. It is human nature to make mistakes, so why stress if you can’t do anything about it? Simply accept the fact that you’ve made a mistake and move on with your life. Try new things. You never know what makes you content, unless you try. But stress is something that’ll always be with me, so I try to simply breathe in and out to calm myself down.
That does NOT mean that you should always splurge on unnecessary items every single day; however it does make me feel much better when I get something new for myself. Sometimes all we need is to make time for ourselves too! In fact, girls, go get a manicure, go get your hair done, be productive and feel good about yourself! Self-love is so important, if that means letting go of toxic relationships and being by myself for the rest of my life, so be it! I will rather be in peace than being stuck in relationships that are no good for me.
Also guys, the best things to do when you’re stressed are definitely a face mask & facial wash. I remember when revising for my GCSE’s I used to do a minimum of five face masks a day, and no I am not over-exaggerating lol. It would make my skin feel brand new and never failed to put me in a good mood. If you were to go to the moon and back for me I wouldn’t be as pleased as I am when I receive skincare products! Skincare is everything to me, invest in good skincare products everyone! It is essential because your skin goes through a lot throughout the day, especially if you wear makeup. Therefore, it is important to keep your skin glowing and healthy. I would recommend keeping your skincare routines for the night because that’s when you can apply all the oils for the entire night which will let the skin rest and absorb the products.
However, you can also treat yourself through other ways such as buying clothes or accessories, or whatever makes YOU feel content.
Know your worth.
This is one of the main reasons why we can’t stay content with ourselves. I mean, come on, if you don’t allow yourself for making mistakes or even stop comparing yourself to others all the time, then no one else will ever do the same for you. I could go on about this forever. Girls like me and you need to know that self-love and self-confidence is SO important for our mental health.
But this also means having kindness in our hearts, as I believe kindness is a quality that is so valuable yet so forgotten. You must outgrow things/people who are no good for you or your time, manage your stress levels and be the mature and independent person that you are. Do not seek help from others all the time as they may have that against you in the future.
We need to be disciplined about what we respond and react to. After all, not everyone or everything deserves your attention. I hope everyone reading this knows ‘the difference between what you’re getting and what you deserve’. And remember this: no matter what happens to you, how much it has changed you: keep a good heart as it will surely help you in the afterlife.
Minimise your expectations about others.
If you have expectations of others, it will lead you to a very unhappy life, especially when a certain expectation of yours hasn’t been fulfilled by someone. Now, I know it does make you feel a bit heart-broken, but in the end, it is only you being in the way of your own happiness. This is why we all need to minimise what we expect from others and just live life the way we want to.
It is hard – I would know, but in order to maintain a happy life, we should give without expecting anything in return. Because, ‘support does come from those who do’ – some will be encouraging you, supporting you but others would try to criticise you, slow you down or make you give up on whatever it is that you want to do. Whenever this occurs to me, I think WHY these people are trying to discourage me or why they have such negative intentions of me.
Most certainly, these people are jealous because they cannot do what YOU are doing, which may be because they know on the inside that they can’t do it, so they ‘hate’. This is why I keep preaching that you all should live your life the way you want to and never give up, because you never know someone else’s intentions behind their trail of thoughts. However, those who genuinely do support you in every move that you make are the people that you should surround yourselves with.
Do NOT compare yourself with others.
Okay, I feel guilty writing this one when I can’t stick to it myself. But I still try to, so don’t hate! Back to the point, I’m pretty sure we all agree on this one from what we have experienced. Whether it is from comparing your own grades to someone else’s, to your appearance, to how life looks perfect for others and not yours, it is completely fine to do that. But we only see what people want us to see from their lives. Often not many people feel comfortable sharing their anxious side because they are afraid of how you will react. This is why we should ‘never judge a book by its cover’.
If we carry on doubting what we are good at, then life becomes tough for us. Which is why, I just give it my all when I do something, so even if it doesn’t go as well as I wanted it to, I can say I tried my absolute best in it. I thought my last point should end on leaving you feeling great about yourself and what you can do, rather than focusing on the negative things.
Because, at the end of the day what really matters is that you are doing something that makes you happy. Be yourself. Follow your heart to wherever it leads you to. Love and respect yourself so much that you do not care what someone else thinks. Your life is your one and only chance to create your happiness. It is about giving you the correct attitude to let yourself shine.
Hopefully your girl didn’t waffle too much, let me know in the comments down below of what your favourite tip was! I hope this gave you all the advice you needed to hear today, stay smiling lovelies.